I am Stephen. I live in Bristol, UK. I decided to shorten my profile...to this: Wildlife, haiku, travel, streetart, psychogeography and my family. Not necessarily in that order.
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14 thoughts on “Visiting time”
You’ve really captured that visiting time feeling.
I hope no-one is too ill.
It is my father…he is old and had a very bad fall. It may take months for him to recover. He had a fall about 18 months ago and was in hospital for four months.
He left the family when I was very young, and has lived alone for most of his life. It is difficult to invest emotionally, but he is my father and I have compassion for an old man. It is difficult though, because he lives in Cornwall, and visiting often will not be practical.
Aw that is sad. It is hard trying to be there for old people but as you say, it is compassionate to do so.
Family dynamics can be very difficult too. I had to be there for my Mum-in-law, for decades, which wasn’t easy. Even as I’d visit her I knew deep down I was mostly doing it so I wouldn’t feel guilty for not doing more, once she’d gone. Still, she got her visits – and I don’t feel guilty.
I hope your Father is reasonably comfortable and not in too much pain; it is all one can do.
I guess it is a bit different in so much as I have never lived with my father, he left when I was little, so the relationship is less loving than it was with my step-father who was there for us. Makes caring for my father now a complex emotional thing. Thank you for the advice though, I understand.
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You’ve really captured that visiting time feeling.
I hope no-one is too ill.
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It is my father…he is old and had a very bad fall. It may take months for him to recover. He had a fall about 18 months ago and was in hospital for four months.
He left the family when I was very young, and has lived alone for most of his life. It is difficult to invest emotionally, but he is my father and I have compassion for an old man. It is difficult though, because he lives in Cornwall, and visiting often will not be practical.
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Aw that is sad. It is hard trying to be there for old people but as you say, it is compassionate to do so.
Family dynamics can be very difficult too. I had to be there for my Mum-in-law, for decades, which wasn’t easy. Even as I’d visit her I knew deep down I was mostly doing it so I wouldn’t feel guilty for not doing more, once she’d gone. Still, she got her visits – and I don’t feel guilty.
I hope your Father is reasonably comfortable and not in too much pain; it is all one can do.
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Thank you. Kind words. This may be a long road.
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Family? I’ve been in this situation. It inspired me to write reams. My thoughts are with you.
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My father. You might recall some haiku poems I wrote about 18 months ago. Thank you for asking.
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I’ll go back and find them. I’m sorry. I know how hard it is.
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Thank you, and I know you have had difficult experiences like this one.
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I hope whoever you’re visiting makes a full and speedy recovery . . .
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Thank you. It is my father…see other comments.
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I nursed both my parents before their passing so enjoy the time you have with them is the best advice I can possibly give you . . .
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I guess it is a bit different in so much as I have never lived with my father, he left when I was little, so the relationship is less loving than it was with my step-father who was there for us. Makes caring for my father now a complex emotional thing. Thank you for the advice though, I understand.
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Just being present is enough. Speedy recovery.
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Thank you. I agree.
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